What Humility Looks Like In A Soccer Parent
What Humility looks like in a soccer parent.
As parents we have an incredible responsibility to model great behavior for our kids. One of the most important things that we can do for our kids is to show them what humility is and not only what it is, but to demonstrate humility ourselves. By definition humility means “A modest or low view of one’s own importance.” How does one show humility? In short it is by giving others credit, praising others, giving compliments, putting the needs of other before yourself and not drawing attention to yourself.
I have been incredibly fortunate over my 23 years in the club to have coached great kids who have great parents who demonstrate humility on a daily basis. Over the last several years I have been lucky to coach one of, if not the very best player I have ever coached in Tatum Neff. Tatum has been blessed with incredible athleticism, a tireless work ethic, drive to improve as a player and incredible humility. It will come as no surprise to anyone that her humility is a trait that she no doubt learned from her father Scott. He demonstrates humility every game day that Tatum has.
Tatum is a goal scoring machine and this fall alone scored 36 goals in 24 games. She is a great player who any father would be extremely proud of and Scott is definitely proud of Tatum. It would be really easy for Scott to draw attention to himself and Tatum every time the ball hits the back of the net, but that has never happened one time in the six years that I have had the privilege of coaching Tatum. In fact it is just the opposite. If you did not know that Scott was her father you would not be able to tell which dad was hers. There is never an over the top celebration or anything close to that. You would be much more likely to think that Scott was the father of whichever player provided the assist to Tatum. He celebrates the passer and not the goal scored by his own daughter.
After each and every game once we have completed our cool down and team talk and the players are ready to head home, Scott is always telling every player what a great job they did and how well they had played. Of course he tells Tatum the same things but never before he has congratulated the other players first with a high five or a hug.
Again, it is no surprise that Tatum shows incredible humility when she has such a fantastic father who is the model of humility day in a day out. Tatum is lucky to have such a great father, her teammates were lucky to have such a supportive parent on their team and I was very lucky to have a constant reminder as a father myself of what humility looks like from a caring dad.
NC Fusion Director of Coaching